Your negative Beliefs are your Inner child’s Beliefs.

Limiting beliefs are the beliefs that you developed about yourself and others when you were a small child, which still govern the way you see yourself and life today. These assumptions are held deep in your subconscious where you are unaware of them and can severely limit the ways in which you live your life.

Our beliefs become the filter through which we interpret our world.

Your core beliefs about yourself, the world, and other people affect your behaviour automatically, in positive or negative ways. Core beliefs define who you think you are and dictate the way you think about yourself and what to expect in your life. These thoughts lead you to behave in ways which confirm that they are right. In this way, all of your beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies. Beliefs will always prove themselves right because they are the way you look at the world.

Your beliefs become the lens through which you view yourself and your world.

Your core beliefs control your thoughts and your behaviour. For example, if you have the belief , “I am unlovable,” you may unknowingly behave in ways that drive others away from you. This leaves you to conclude that, you are “unlovable” and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy reinforcing the belief. If it were not for this core belief you may have been able to accept love and acted in ways that brought people closer to you.

These beliefs lie outside of our awareness. So, when you don’t heal limiting beliefs, at the subconscious level, you will continue to focus on them and act according to them, collecting more and more evidence that they are true. This causes a lot of pain and internal stress and reinforces your belief even more deeply.

We are always acting in ways that reinforce our beliefs.

Examples of negative core beliefs include I’m not good enough.

  • I can’t.
  • I’m not lovable.
  • I’m worthless.
  • I’m not confident.
  • the world is dangerous.
  • people are untrustworthy.

(Positive core beliefs would be the opposite of these.)

We see everything through the lens of our beliefs, they help us interpret our world. So, any time something happens, you will make it mean something that’s consistent with your existing beliefs. We behave in ways which support our core negative beliefs, and we are mostly unaware of it.

Our minds only see what they’re looking for.

Symptoms of core negative beliefs

These deep-rooted beliefs can cause all sorts of problems in life.

Do you.

  • Procrastinate on doing things that would help promote your career?
  • Have trouble making friends or have problems with maintaining a relationship?
  • Find yourself thinking about the same thing obsessively?
  • Require perfection before you can relax or move forward?
  • Have compulsive behaviour, such as excessive hand washing?

Other problems that might emerge from core beliefs include,

  • Low self-esteem.
  • Feelings of inadequacy.
  • Difficulty handling stress.
  • Inappropriate jealousy.
  • Unwarranted confrontational or hostile behaviour.
  • Substance abuse or,

If you are noticing some of these problems in your life they are indicators of your negative core beliefs.

Your negative core beliefs are not your fault.

You did not create the core negative beliefs that cause your pain and stop you from growing. These beliefs were developed in your childhood either through the messages you received from your parents or in response to traumatic events; sudden or unpredictable events that undermine a person’s sense of safety in the world and that feel beyond a person’s control.

When you were a young child, you were totally dependent on your parents for your survival and to show you who you were and how to think of yourself. While your parents’ intent may have been to pass on wisdom to help you survive in the world, they may have also passed on to you their own insecurities and fears.

We model our parents’ behaviour through observing how they treat themselves; if they didn’t feel good about themselves then we learn to view ourselves in the same way. Young children look to their parents to define them and internalise the messages they receive via the feedback that they get either directly or indirectly. If your parents feel good about you, you feel good about you. If your parents feel bad about you, you feel bad about yourself. We automatically accept these messages as the truth about ourselves.

We continue to carry these negative core beliefs with us when we leave home, at which point our parents no longer need to remind us of who we are, our view of the world is cast and our core beliefs about ourselves are set in motion.

How we experience life now reflects our inner child’s beliefs including the pain that they felt. Their pain is our pain, their beliefs are our beliefs.

Conflict, Abuse, Criticism, and aggression cause Self-Defence mechanisms that often last a lifetime.

They can lead to many types of inadequacy feelings.

For example, if you had a critical parent and no matter what you did, you could never please them or get the recognition and approval that you so desperately wanted and needed, you may have begun to feel like nothing that you did was ever enough. Overtime, through repeatedly seeking approval and receiving negative feedback, along with the painful feelings that go with it, you developed a negative core belief such as, “I’m not good enough.”

Family Patterns

Usually, the harmful messages that we receive from our parents have nothing to do with us and more to do with how our parents feel about themselves and how they were treated as children. Most parents are unconsciously doing the same things to their children as was done to them, by projecting their unresolved, unhealed wounds onto their own children. This is how intergenerational pain is passed down the line that is, until you become conscious of your own pain and heal it.

We can also acquire these beliefs from our extended families, such as grandparents, aunts, and uncles, or from our friends, teachers, and religious institutions.

Fear, Sorrow, and inadequacy feelings are created when overbearing parents intimidate children.

Anti-Social behaviour, Introversion, Anger and holding back are common outcomes when parents conflict badly.

The decisions you made about yourself, and your life based on the messages you received when you were young, become the same messages you give to yourself for the rest of your life. These become your limiting beliefs and will play out in your life in all sorts of self-destructive ways, including how you raise your own children unless you heal them at the subconscious level.

Hypnotherapy can help.

You may have been a product of your programming up to now, but this doesn’t need to define you any longer. The good news is that there is a way to change your core negative beliefs so that you don’t have to be a slave to them anymore. You can correct these ‘false’ beliefs and free yourself from the negative patterns that have played out in your life.

The answer lies with your inner child and finding out what messages you received about yourself when you were younger that caused you to feel bad. When you identify the limiting beliefs of your inner child, the reasons for your pain will become clearer. When you understand the perceptions and feelings of your inner child, you understand yourself and you no longer have to be a victim of your programming.

While there are some common core negative beliefs, core negative beliefs are as unique as fingerprints, which is why your sessions are tailored specifically for you. Together, we will explore how your core negative beliefs have played out in your life and uncover the root cause of your problem. This will help you and your inner child recognise the ‘truth’ about who you really are beyond your negative ‘false’ beliefs so that you can…move beyond your limitations and be happy.

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